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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT:
HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY IN SPITE OF EVERYTHING. |
C.H. Ross Chicago
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I read this list on a blog somewhere and i saved it. For some strange reason I could never get through the list while it was on my computer. So I printed it out and put it on my refrigerator. I got less unhappy. I decided to ramp it up so I maed a copy and put it on my mirror and recited it every morning before I went to work. Better. Then I put a copy on my desk at work. Big difference. Now I'm trying to figure how to get it tatooed on the inside of my eyelids. I think it's working. Enjoy.
* Have Tagets and Goals
* Smile Always
* Share Happiness with Others
* Willing to help others
* Keep a child like heart
* Get on well with different kinds of people
* Keep the sense of Humor
* Keep calm when surprise comes
* Forgive others
* Have some really good friends
* Always work in team
* Enjoy the family gathering time
* Be confident and proud of yourself
* Respect the weak
* Indulge yourself, sometimes
* Work from time to time
* Be brave and courageous
* Never be a money grabber |
FEEDBACK: Never look back. MS, Detroit,MI
Here is the PowerPoint the above list came from. The pictures are worth the trip:
http://www.english-test.net/forum/ftopic84.html
HG, Danbury, NJ
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D.F. Scholl
Utica,
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I believe the setting of goals is very important if you want a happy life and want to get along in this rough-and-tumble world. It may seem strange, but there are people who do not understand that simple idea. They drift along and are pushed by whatever they encounter. Maybe you have seen people like that.
I have been setting goals for myself for many years and have kept many of the papers on which I wrote them. Some of my lists were nuts; and others were quite clever. I will share what I have learned.
Make short term goals that are in harmony with some long term strategy you might have. Don’t make a resolution for a year. For example, suppose your long term strategy is to write a book. It does no good to say: “This year I intend to finish writing a book.”
I have found it better to set goals for just a month, like this: “I want to finish the first draft of the chapter of my book on “The People Living in Yosemite Park.” That would be a doable goal if I worked at it every day and had my research done. And, at the end of the month, I could check to see if I reached it. If I did, that would make me happy. |
FEEDBACK:try to be happy for at least 30 days and you will notice how everything changes.
DF, Pittsfield, MS
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S.U.
Graves
Summit,
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Here is a list somebody sent me in the mail. I have no idea where it came from but I just wanted to share it with all of you:
1. Enjoy the quest of looking for what you like to do! When we do activities that we like and satisfy us we increase our happiness. If we work in what we like the most happiness will be always be present.
2. Get Active!
Keep yourself active, Being inactive keeps our minds idle and produces isolation in many cases. Look for exciting activities. Sports or other things that require creativity like playing an instrument or some kind of dance is an excellent happiness booster.
3. Be Social!
Look to have social contact. Keep in touch with your familiar group and friends. It is always more gratifying to be in a social environment than lonely.
4. Enjoy Nature!
Keep contact with nature and animals. Nature charge our energetic batteries. Do a long walk in the woods and you will feel renewed.
5. Be Optimistic!
Develop an optimistic way of thinking. That way you can keep focused on your goals.
6. Get some Laughs!
Develop your sense of humor. Take tough situations with some humor. That way you will always feel happy.
7. Be the real You!
Be yourself. Letting other people know you exactly as you are will make you feel free and will make you happy.
8. Feed the love!
Feed your social relations. Love is first priority. Showing some love to others is very gratifying. If you give love you will be loved, so if you want to feel love from others then give love back first.
9. Enjoy Life!
Value every single thing that you experience. If we are grateful for what we receive and we give something back our well-being will increase to points in which you will attract all the good things you wish for yourself.
10. Don’t Worry. Be Happy!
Forget about those things that worry you. Do not dedicate time or energy to things that have not yet occurred or things that might never occur.
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| FEEDBACK: Everyone wants to be happy, it has been determined that everyone is already happy and just doesn't know it. There are circumstances in our lives that won't allow us to be happy, like our everyday lives and stress, that is why you see everyone walking around with an frown or a unhappy face. Just get over yourself and let the happy breathe free. JK, Lexington, KY |
G. Doby
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We need to let the true person come from within, and then we will be a happier person, it's OK to feel bad for our friends, or love ones but, we can't allow everything that happens to them keep us unhappy, sure you feel sad because your love one is sick or hurt. And we really do care what happens to that person. We tend to feel bad but, you can still care and be happy at the same time when caring for that person. But if you want to be truly happy, you have to let go of some of life's problems. Do not be selfish. Just don't spend the rest of your life worrying and being unhappy about something that happened to your friend and no one could possibly have had any control over. And this is not because you don't care about them. It's just tuning into the things that make you happy. You can still care about your friends and family, but if you spend your whole life worrying and being unhappy about something they did or said, you will forever be unhappy. |
| FEEDBACK: Try to be positive in just about everything you do, if you're always hanging out with depressed and unhappy people that will make you feel the same way. |
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tWhen we keep ourselves happy, we attract to our life |
| positive experiences that help us achieve our goals, Positive thoughts are important to attract to our life all of those things we want. When we keep ourselves happy most of the time our life will develop successfuly.When you are happy you act actively in your life, you make things you enjoy, you make things that entertain you and consequently you will be more productive.Being Happy lets us discover our unique purpose in life and gives us the hope to develop it..
Dr. Nathan Weinstein
Psychologist
Venice, CA
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I think it's a critical lesson to learn that not everything |
has to do directly with us, so why do we take it to heart? Certain comments should be like water off a duck's back. It's quite possible that we might just be an actor in someone else's play, and it's not our show at all. Believe me, it's so hard not to take it personally in love, at work, or in traffic. I find that the more I don't take it personally, the quicker I can move through situations instead of getting caught up in all the minutia. As people we thrive on drama, but finding ways to cut some of the drama out would give us more time to focus on ourselves and our own happiness.
Melissa Joneas
Councilor
Witchita, KS
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Do you want to know the real source of happiness? It doesn’t |
come from the outside. It is WITHIN you. Happiness is a STATE OF MIND. There is no need to buy books, seek the services of a shrink, or accumulate material things in order to be happy.
It is as simple as making a decision- from now on, I will CHOOSE to be happy! Remember those nine words. Write them down on paper. Put it in your wallet or purse. The next time you are feeling blue, take it out and read it.
Stop whining, complaining or seeing the negative side in every situation. Revise your thinking and your whole outlook. Forget yourself. People aren’t interested in you anyway. They are all interested in themselves. Focus on others. Then you will find out that there is a happy and enjoyable life out there. The choice is yours.
Dr. Kevin Handle
Marrige Councilor
New York, NY
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Remember the adage: godliness with contentment
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gain? It is never truer today in our materialistic world. There is an overwhelming pressure to buy, buy , buy. You need this car. You need this furniture. You need these shoes. But the truth is, you probably don’t need them. Getting on the consumption merry go round will benefit only the marketers, those who want to profit from you.
Don’t fall for this consumption trap! A roof over your head, the clothes on your back and three square meals a day should basically be it.So stop keeping up with the Joneses. Quit living a lifestyle that you cannot afford.
Tell yourself, less is better. Follow the KISS approach (Keep It Simple Sweetie! ). Be content with what you have. You will feel richer for it.
Mary Wentworth
Teacher
Lawrence, KY
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I have found that if I set short term goals for myself that are in |
harmony with a bigger strategy that I have I can be very happy. And, the interesting thing is that these short term goals often fit together in building a bigger picture.
Too many goals can frustrate you. Picture this: You are getting the family ready for an outing at the park and people tell you to turn off the radio, pick up the papers in front, water the plants, set out food for the dog, give the key to the neighbor, see that there is gas in the car, bring along some spare clothes, don’t forget the camera, and on and on. You get mad and shout: “Shut up! Quit hassling me!”
You set up the same situation if you list too many things as your goals. So, keep the list short. Make it something where you will easily do everything and be victorious – be the winner
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Even DeLaCruz
Social Worker
Morristown, NJ
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we are the captain of our ships--our minds. No matter, what
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we must weather, we have what it takes to overcome these disturbances and continue our journey with smooth sailing, under our own power. You have little control over many unfortunate activating events or adversities that plague you, but you largely can control your beliefs about these adversities. You can control and exhange your own disturbance-creating demands!
Marsha Yasuhara
Nurse Practitioner
Chicago, IL
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Jan Noyes ,
Art Director
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Try to recall one of your most enjoyable childhood experiences. Was it the trip to the beach, the baseball bat or toy doll from dad and mom? Or having to eat a bowl of strawberry ice cream all by yourself? Remember how you felt then.
Shouldn’t you continue to experience those feelings, with perhaps even more intensity , now that you are grown up? Savor every waking moment in life. Life is such a tremendous blessing. The fact that you are alive should make you happy. See the good in every situation and be thankful and appreciate it. If you maintain this outlook, the joy and happiness that builds up inside of you will eventually overflow. People will notice that you are a different person. They will want to be near you. To them, you will be like a breath of fresh air.
Do you want to be happy? Most everybody does! Just follow these pointers and see and experience a dramatic change in your life. Don’t wait for happiness to come to your life. Make it happen now! |
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Nancy Joya,
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Here are my four rules for being happy in spite of anything that my come my way to the contrary:
# Accept and Forget. Write down all your flaws everything you don't like about yourself. Divide them into three columns: worth worrying about, who cares? and why is it even on this list? . Rip them all up. This is not about changing yourself. This is being yourself and loving yourself for it.
# Eliminate! Identify places or people or things that make you feel uncomfortable with yourself. Eliminate this stuff from your schedule. You have no time for people who don't accept you.
# Forgetting others opinions. If you feel fat because someone said you were, they were probably covering up for their own insecurity problem. Feel superior take the high road and forge about themt.
# Learn to forgive. Once your self-esteem is booming and confidence glowing I bet at least one person will be sorry. Forgive and forget . Everyone makes mistakes. You did by listening to them. |
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Carrie Davis ,
Editor
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If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you want to win but think you can't;
It's almost a cinch you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a person’s will;
It's all in a state of mind.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger and faster human,
But sooner or later the people who win
Are the ones who think they can.
-- Author Unknown |
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